Friday, November 20, 2015


Ann, my cousin Tina and I organised a hook up in one of the coffee joints in town. I had not seen Tina for the past five months as she had traveled to Australia for a conference and holiday combo. She really looked good in her white skinny jeans, black vest and a black water fall sweater. Her nude heals made me wanna run to the shops and buy them.

Ann arrived as we had already settled with Tina and ordered our drinks. As she walked to table, I could not resist looking at her. She was dressed in a pink midi skirt, white peplum top and black flat ballet shoes. She had a black sling bag. Just as Fred had said, she had really gained weight, or was it her clothes?

She gave us all a hug and sat down directly opposite my chair.

"Girl, I haven't seen you in ages!" I started.

"I miss you too dear. How have you all been?" Ann asked while taking the menu.

"We have been good." Tina answered in between her sip of white coffee.

"How is the family Tina? Australia?"

"It was wonderful. I do not think you have the time to listen to all the details." she added.

"We are here, you better start with the details!" Ann insisted.

We laughed.

She started giving us all the juicy parts of the story. She really looked happy telling the story. She clearly had fun. I was so happy for her. Just a few months back, she had experienced the most horrifying part of her life when her husband turned evil and beat her so bad that she was admitted to the hospital. Seeing her smiling made my heart happy for her.

"What about you?" Ann asked interrupting my thoughts.

"What?" I asked.

"How is Chloe?" Tina asked.

"She is doing well. Almost one in a few months."

"Wow, now I feel bad. Time has run out and yet I haven't even come to see her." Tina said while holding her face.

"You should come over. Fred and Chloe will be thrilled." I said. 

Ann order of vanilla milkshake was brought to the table. It looked yummy.

"Ann, I can see big developments." I started.

"Which ones?" She asked.

"You decided to gain again? I thought you hit the gym for the same reason?"

"Kate, that's mean!" Tina shouted.

"No its not."

I turned and looked at Ann who was looking at us smiling. She shook her head, sipped more shake then said, "Yes I have. Eight pounds to be exact."

"Huh?!" I gasped.

"I'm pregnant." She added.

I was stunned. I really didn't expect that. Her first born is only a year and a half!

"I was surprised as all of you but what can I do? I have to except the circumstances even though its not favorable." Ann said. "I wish it was another period of my life but it isn't."

"How far are you?" Tina asked.

"Two months."

"Two months? And I have only known this today?" I asked felling left out.

"It was not the most exciting news to share to anyone leave alone myself."

"I understand Ann." I assured her. "Congratulations nevertheless."

"Thank you."

Thursday, November 19, 2015

A glass to me!

Let me say something that you would not hear every day.

"Never compare your life as that of the TV programs. You will fail miserably."

For the longest time, I kept on admiring how couples on my favorite shows looked. They seemed happy and touchy touchy almost all the time. I had moments where I dreamt how my wedding would be, how the babies will be raised and even the car that we will drive.

Life gave me a big shock of my expectations versus the reality. For one, the wedding I had always pictured on my head never came through. I preferred to hold a small wedding with close family and friends. The budget and distance between the friends I had changed. I preferred the people who stood by me to be present alongside the family that I had gained.

The man I had pictured in my mind was tall, masculine and wealthy. Yes, wealthy! Funny, right? I managed to get Fred who was tall, not masculine and not wealthy but very happy with him. The romantic novels I had read while I was young gave me an imagination same as the characters. We have struggled together especially when he was jobless. Taking the role of the house was not easy especially when I was pregnant. 

With the babies, I have one whom I love so much! Getting her was not easy as I had pictured. I went through a lot like miscarriages, bed rest and painful labor in order to bring her to this world. She is perfect. I thought I would go have sex, wait nine months then give one sexy push and the baby would pop out like in the movies. Nah! I even questioned women who had more than eight kids how they managed to handle it all. 

As I am approaching my thirties, I have come to appreciate the things that have made me whom I am. The pain, struggles, laughter, stress, illness, mourning period, love and work gave me the strength to move forward. 

I have reached the big 3-0. I have accomplished a lot of things. I am blessed. Just the other day I came from campus naïve as a chicken to the corporate world and have risen to the HR Manager. My dream already in just a few years. My best friend, Ann, is on her way up the ladder too. She was recently promoted as the Chief Regional Officer. High five to us!

My love of my life, Fred. The father of my baby. The soul mate. My husband. He is still charming as ever, patient, loving and at 32 years, he is the best to have around. His career took a dive but he is on the way to stability. I love you baby. May God bless us with more days to see our grandkids becoming presidents. LOL